An Interabled Love Story (Intimacy and Disability)

An Interabled Love Story (Intimacy and Disability)


our relationship is normal and exciting
and she helps me poop the otherwise we’re just a regular couple that has fun
and gets into arguments and you know figures out like I thought first Shane
is definitely both physical and emotional I love his personality he’s a
wonderful boyfriend and we definitely connect physically I love his body and
everything about him really why are you laughing that’s making it so much harder
you told me to say that no don’t laugh like that
did you like pushing your buttons uh yeah definitely in a loving way I think
it’s funny he definitely teases me the she’s a play
Internet and it’s a little definite maybe in many ways it’s not welcome to
SBS K join me as I travel around the world an interview individuals living
with a condition to prove no matter how you communicate but what obstacles you
face you’re always deserving of love and
acceptance so without hesitation let’s meet today’s friend well let’s just jump
into the most important question what’s your biggest pet peeve about shape this
is an easy one Shane has a habit of asking me for a sip
like from a cup and then as I bring it to his mouth he starts talking and just
begins a conversation so then I’m stuck holding a cup waiting for him to finish
and it’s always a long sentence Hobie like do you remember the time I’m not
sure what it was nice long sentence yeah I live in this
used for this final muscular atrophy take you and that causes my muscles to
race the way as we get older and it was my primary caregiver and so from the
moment I wake up to the moment I did that
and is doing most of my hair it affects every part of my body I never walked I
got my first real chair when I was 20 years old and today it affects my arms
like now my lungs everybody I had absolutely zero familiarity with
anything disability really did when I met him and then like the first date we
were on someone came up to the table and started praying over him and I was like
oh like what do I do and he was like oh don’t worry this happens all the time so
I was shocked and that is true it really does happen all the time so that I
definitely opened my eyes to the entire world that I was completely unaware of
how much nice and good oh this must be your sister or your mom
or your nurse I can’t believe the mom thing I’ve gotten that like five times
and he’s four years older than me I have too much I know they are just confounded
by the idea that even be together and that hurts you know that it was hurtful
this is if they knew me they would know that I am a funny intelligent caring guy
that obviously was I used to hate my body like to the point where I would
leave all my clothes on at the beach like a family vacation because I knew I
didn’t like the way the people looked at me and I knew from the roll-ups of the
respect I was weird I had already by the age of like step 7
experience the weight of the world assumed so much about me because of the
way I what they were on a romantic walk through the park by a lake near our
house a couple of weeks ago I thought that we clearly looked like a couple a
father with a group of kids runs up to me and is like
does he want to play with bubbles and I was like excuse me and the guy was like
just he want to play with bubbles I’m Shane was like no thank you that
kind of assumption is made all the time that I’m not capable of interacting or
conceal from herself for love for my physical what’s developed in time a lot
of active I Hannah just like loving me entirely is caregiving something this is
part of your life or is it something you consider an act of love I think it’s
just part of my life yeah I don’t really consider it like a special thing that I
do for Shane it’s just sort of a normal part of our daily lives now that we
don’t even think about yeah don’t look at the charitable aspect as like a chore
but rather just something that were hanging out and doing the other do you
know yeah I mean I think we sort of combine the caregiving and the
boyfriend/girlfriend yeah parts like I don’t see it as like now I’m gonna be
your caregiver and now I’m gonna be your girlfriend
oh you shower yeah I want to talk to him so I think we just see it as hanging out
and yeah I think we just sort of maintain the boyfriend-girlfriend rules
all the time I really wish to the world was a little more open-minded about
disability and the fact that we are all you know valuable and how did you two
meet I saw a video about Shane on YouTube was
just like about his daily life and I watched it and then I clipped a link to
his blog and I read that for like three hours and by then it was midnight and I
was a little bit delusional so I emailed him and introduced myself I was
delusional this isn’t a normal new sound and I don’t know why I did it but I
emailed him and introduced myself and he emailed back the next morning with his
phone number tell me how you ended your first no I
don’t want to say how I ended my cou was that she wrote this nice you know very
professional yeah we had a lot in common you made me laugh ha ha yes I think you
see you what compelled you to send that first email first his sense of humor um
I watched throughout the entire video he was very charming and cute what did you
think the first time you saw Hannah well I didn’t see her just nervous and I did
that is input I read her email and I fell for her mind and her character and
her personality it was a wonderful email she’s really good about AHA thought I
was just like wow I need to know more about this hell and then the first time
that I saw her face I was like oh he is a very selfless person and I discovered
that a couple weeks after he met when he was just constantly like dropping things
to FaceTime me when I had a minute that was free and just making sure that I was
like emotionally taken care of all the time you’re doing amazing my hands are
like icicles sweating icicles do you comfort her often do that comfort her
off there yes there is yeah okay yeah I think that a big part of our
relationship is just like talking about and being there for each other through
hard most of the time you do it right away the other night I was well
you’re in a hotel last night I was scared that there was a murderer in the
room because it was just a really creepy room there were a lot of things that led
me to baby noises yeah anyway I was gonna investigate the bathroom so that I
could be sure that the room is empty and Shane thinking that this was a moment
for humour started making like a scary monster voice from the other room and
that was exactly not what I needed in that moment yeah I don’t like that so
most of the time you come for me some of the time you yes have fun this
is the mark yeah life is better when you’re laughing and that idea has
allowed me to do everything that I’ve done in life just being able to take a
step back and laugh at my situation everyone yelling here um has turned me
into the person that I am today and has led to my relationship my career
every time what was it like the first week you lived together just a happy man
yeah oh you’re like definitely out there and just enjoying that feeling of
knowing that this wasn’t a visit that was hard to end it was a really
comforting and relaxed you know what would you say to a young person who does
not believe they’re worthy of love you are worthy of love you might not feel
like it and feelings that you see out there in the world and that what you get
from other people right now might not make you believe that but you are and
you have unknown abilities and interests and values inside of you that other
people will find very attractive thanks for watching SP SK we believe the
world is a better place when everyone takes the time to understand one another
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100 Replies to “An Interabled Love Story (Intimacy and Disability)”

  1. Great to meet you Shane and Hannah! These two run a YouTube channel where they share their daily routine and adventures in detail. Check it out at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdomP1JqhnyBQGaBmfDl4KQ.

  2. The cover of any book shouldn't never be judged. Its what's in the book that counts. In time our books cover will age, fade, wrinkle, and even fall apart. God only looks at the inward parts of a man – and not what's on the outside.

  3. This couple is adorable!!!!! They are so funny, and cute together, the way they communicate.. i have so much to learn and take into my own relationship. And wow, isnt Hannah stunning๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ bless you, both, you guys are really cool โ™ก

  4. I don't know how to say that, but how do you break up from a relationship like that one? I mean, would she find him another caregiver as good as her and then leave? Or would he tell her thank you for everything but I need to break up? Wouldnt that be more hurtful than my breakup for example? That's harsh

  5. Theyโ€™re beautiful together I hope I have a relationship like theirs someday what he said at the end was really touching and I believe him thank you Shane (:

  6. this shows that if you unconditionally love yourself somebody else can do the same, this applies to everyone and helps me to love myself more to be more open for such a beautiful relationship

  7. I admire the two of you sooooo much! Love is Love and that's all that matters. Good luck with your wonderful life together. ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’–

  8. When I am tired I find it harder to read text clearly, that and I really need to go to the opticians (4 years overdue now). So I read the title of the vlog as 'An Intolerable Love Story'…….so imagine my disappointment after watching – no angst whatsover?! Great show guys – informative and witty.

  9. Another great video ๐Ÿ™‚ I found these after watching their own YouTube channel and its just great to hear more about them!

    I'm in a interabled relationship too and my husband is my full time carer too, we wouldn't have it any other way. Like Hannah and Shane said it just becomes part of life and to be honest I feel it's easier having a loved one care for you compared to strangers you have to pay to care for you. Like they said their love comes into the caring si it's not like one minute your a carer the next your a husband or whatever. You try to make it a time when you just enjoy getting to spend more time together. Hannah and Shane explain it so well and I definitely relate to their words as it's so similar to my life too. I'm truly happy for them and they are definitely an inspiration, I really hope through what they share that they can help others to learn and be more accepting as everyone deserves to be loved!

    I loved hearing how they meet too, I think its great they formed a bond before even seeing each other (ok so Hannah saw him on video but hopefully you get the idea of what I mean). I think it can truly make the relationship stronger if its built on your personality and looks come later. I too met my husband in a similar way, we both "met" through an online support group so neither of us knew how the other looked until the day we met in person. We got to know each other and fell in love for the person we are inside before we even met and saw in each other in real life. I honestly think that can create such a strong bond and relationship as at the end of the day you know that person is with you not fir how you look but who you are. I hope I'm making sense. Anyway I'm just so glad you both found each other and its clearly meant to be as it's so obvious you both love each other and nothing gets in the way of that.

    Thanks again for the awesome videos, I think its great that your sharing stories like these around the world!

  10. If she breaks up with him she will be hated by the world and be known as a โ€œbad personโ€ thatโ€™s the trouble about putting this in the public

  11. Y'all are SOOOO beautifu!! Y'all keep doing all thing. I'm keeping y'all in my prayers. Strong man.๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ

  12. Delightful couple. Love your togetherness. You BOTH deserve your wonderful relationship. We all should be so lucky. ๐Ÿ‘โค

  13. I just donโ€™t understand. I donโ€™t get it at all. Caregiver turns fiancรฉ, eventually turns wife. Itโ€™s not Emilia Clarke in โ€œMe Before Youโ€

  14. I FRIKKKKEEENNNN LOVEEEEE THESE TWO ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธ

  15. this world needs more people like you two!! just good kind hearted & mature people, you guys are great!! ๐Ÿ’• God Bless You Guys

  16. I feel in love with this couple they are both so genuine and honest love their channel and watch every chance I get !

  17. Well LOVE IS LOVE it's super sweet and I fell in love with them the first time I saw their videos love yo GOD BLESS

  18. I hope they stay together for a very long time. As a 31 year old man born with Cerebral Palsy and other disabilities, that is truly my number one fear; the girl will end up leaving me

  19. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ Shane your awesome buddy! Your a lucky man to have a wonderful girlfriend who really cares about you and that is true love right there buddy! I also view your video from Squirmy and Mel? Lol keep it up! Y'all are beautiful couples!

  20. Woah, does this mean comments are enabled again?! Now I must go rewatch some videos and see and comment where I can! Love what you do, and the awesome people you introduce me to!

  21. I doubt you see this after eight months, but I felt it important to tell you to have patience with society, please. Because of you and so many others who are posting videos, the world is learning about disability. We never had anyone to show us what it was like before. I am almost 65 years old. When I was a child, a disability was hidden away, forbidden. Now we are a more accepting society and a more learned society. This is all thanks to you!!! Keep up the good work.

  22. Yah just waiting for mine i am phyisicaly disabled had 2 back surgeries leg surgeries arm surgies and feet surgeries. I also have a back fracture and have to eat vegan organic non pesticide non chemical do do to what gmo is which is horrible. Anyways i pray i find a girl that can be there for me like he has her :).

  23. Ride on brother I love it it is a big deal with the world today they always see us with a disability with someone they automatically as our care giver or our a relative hardly ever see them as a partner. I commend you sir keep up the great work!!

  24. It pisses me off that the disability is such a focus in this. How will we ever be equal while people see this as abnormal? His disability means nothing to me it is just another couple

  25. The only reason he is disabled is because people see him as "the lucky one" My wheelchair doesn't make me disabled but the way people react to it does. I have had able bod girlfriends and it drove me crazy that people thought I had got lucky! I can't walk but I can out think most so why am I disabled?

  26. And I though disabled people can't win a girls heart ๐Ÿ˜ญ I'm also physically disabled and single. I wanna be lucky like him ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ’”โค๏ธ

  27. Shane you are a beautiful man. You have a beautiful warm loving. Soul. I am so happy that God Blessed you with Hannah. You are an Amazing couple. I love the sense of humor between the both of you.

  28. I loved this video you are like any couple I know ๐Ÿ˜… Iโ€™ve a daughter with downsyndrome and she is an angel on this earth and deserves the best when she grows up!! Love ur story ! Iโ€™ve been in all these situations with her as a baby and all I can say is fair play to you for dealing so well with other peoples ignorance,Love from Dublin Ireland xxxx love has no boundaries โค๏ธ

  29. ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œu guys

  30. I'm cynical by nature. You can fault me for that if you have to; even so, I can't help it. Therefore, being the natural cynic that I am, I can't help but believe that she has an ulterior motive. I hope I'm wrong. For his sake. It's just that I don't see females who are that young who are that selfless in their actions. Isn't the ideal female just an idea? Isn't she just a myth?

  31. I am so very envious of you Shane. I too ride the SMA train and share very similar physical traits and care. I figured there had to be women out there with the heart that Hannah shares with you. But I've never found one in my forty years of searching. It's been nothing but the friend zone. I hope you never become alone.

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