The Heartbreak Of Not Having A Vagina | BORN DIFFERENT

The Heartbreak Of Not Having A Vagina | BORN DIFFERENT


KAYLEE MOATS: I’m still trying to accept myself, accept what I have and not dwell on it. KAYLEE MOATS: I was about 18 when I discovered I had MRKH, when I didn’t get my period
but my 12-year-old sister did. We decided to go to the gynaecologist where they did
an ultrasound and discovered I didn’t have a uterus or a cervix and vaginal opening and
that I wouldn’t be able to carry my own children. LAURA MOATS: That was disbelief. It was a
feeling of ‘Why? What happened? Why doesn’t she have a uterus?’ KAYLEE MOATS: Seeing how my mom reacted, it
made me sad that I wasn’t able to provide grandchildren for her; one day. BRENT MOATS: Even though we didn’t have
any control over it; you just feel just awful, helpless, that you can’t do anything to
bring it back to fix her condition. It’s just, it’s really hard as a parent. KAYLEE MOATS: It makes me feel less of a woman
because I can’t do what women are supposed to do. They’re supposed to be able to carry
children and create a family, and have an intimate relationship and I can’t provide
that. The next step now is to have reconstructive surgery to create a vaginal opening so that
I’ll be able to have an intimate relationship with my future husband or boyfriend. KAYLEE MOATS: They consider it a cosmetic surgery or a gender re-assignment which it’s
not. It’s very hurtful. The fact that I’ve to pay 15,000 for the surgery, right out of
college when I already owe a bunch of student loans is very hard on our family and hard
on me. LAURA MOATS: Because insurance companies will cover things like vasectomies for men or they
will cover a portion of them to go on their viagra pills, yet they won’t cover something
like this that is so necessary to, in a relationship. LAURA MOATS: It’s heart breaking and frustrating. DR. DERYL LAMB: Besides an all female anatomy we have fallopian tubes, ovaries and the uterine,
uterus and cervix. Kaylee’s, Kaylee does not have any of this; no ovaries, no uterus and no cervix. DR. DERYL LAMB: Nobody knows exactly why some
people have that and others don’t. DR. DERYL LAMB: So, insurance does not consider this as, as something that would save her
life, basically. KAYLEE MOATS: When Robbie and I first started dating, really all I could think about most
of the time was when I was going to tell him, how he will react and if he will still want
to be with me or how I was going to tell him. ROBERT LIMMER: When she told me, I already have grown to love this person. So, it’s
not going to make me love you any less and I’ll be there every step of the way for
you, so, it didn’t really change my feelings about her, anyway. KAYLEE MOATS: The impact this condition has
on my sex life is that, it’s not existent because I don’t have a vagina opening. Again,
Robbie is very supportive of that and doesn’t focus on that part of our relationship as
much, because, I’m not able to partake in that. KAYLEE MOATS: In the future when I am planning
to start a family, I have my sister Amanda and a couple of my friends that have offered
to be surrogates for me. AMANDA MOATS: I want to support her in any way possible and if that’s something that
she decides that she wants; I’m more than happy to do it for her. ROBERT LIMMER: In order to help fund her surgery,
I’ve been wanting to donate a portion of my pay check, every time. KAYLEE MOATS: Knowing that he accepts me for
who I am and doesn’t see me as less of a person or less of a woman makes me feel
loved. ROBERT LIMMER: I’m amazed that she hasn’t let this define her. She is one of the nicest
people that I know, one of the most caring people that I’ve ever met. ROBERT LIMMER: She inspires me every day to
be more like that. KAYLEE MOATS: In the future, I hope to have my own family and have a child of my own DNA.
But if that doesn’t work, because sometimes surrogacy doesn’t always work, then I hope
to adopt and not have MRKH define me.

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